#TalkAboutTrying : quand des femmes parlent de leurs difficultés à tomber enceinte


La compagnie Ferring Pharmaceuticals et l’association américaine Resolve ont lancé la campagne Talk About Trying pour donner la parole aux femmes qui ont du mal à tomber enceinte.

Sur les réseaux sociaux, les témoignages des couples se multiplient partageant le parcours du combattant pour procréer. En passant par les nombreuses méthodes de fécondation, de la perte d’espoir, de la colère, des pleurs et enfin de la dépression, des femmes se livrent à travers le hashtag #TalkAboutTrying:

« ..Plus de deux ans de tentatives de conception, je n’y ai même pas réfléchi à deux fois avant de faire une Fécondation in Vitro. Je me souviens avoir pleuré la première fois que je me suis fait une piqûre…je me souviens d’avoir tenu la main de Nathan et pleuré de joie en entendant pour la première fois les battements de cœur de mon bébé… » écrit par exemple une internaute sur son compte Instagram.

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#talkabouttrying I remember being 20 something and commenting that if I couldn’t have kids “naturally,” then I probably wouldn’t. Fast forward 10 years later in life and 2+ years of trying to conceive, I didn’t even think twice before doing IVF after it was recommended by our 3rd specialist. I remember crying the first time I gave myself a shot. I remember the strength Nathan summoned to give me the shots I couldn’t do on my own. I remember feeling like my ovaries were bouncing off my thighs when I climbed the stairs and getting winded just walking down the street. I remember on the day of our embryos transfer laughing so hard I was fanning my face in an attempt to get enough oxygen because I had a little valium and thought the grain of the wood on our exam room door looked like giant follicles from our last vaginal ultrasound. I remember having a panic attack in Whole Foods during the two week wait, and having dreams that our two implanted embryos looked like eggs, sunny side up in a frying pan. I remember holding Nathan’s hand and crying tears of joy while hearing Baby H’s heartbeat for the first time, and then crying a little harder when we realized that only one embryo implanted. I remember feeling as if I was the only pregnant person in the world excited about having morning sickness, and later feeling ungrateful when I didn’t like feeling so nauseous all the time. I remember laughing when my belly would ripple as Baby H moved around. I remember taking maternity photos while in labor a few weeks earlier than expected and trying to speed up the labor process by doing jump squats in my basement to my late brother-in-law’s favorite music. I remember so many details of Baby H’s birth and I remember how wondrous it felt to hold his warm, little body for the first time before he peed on me. I remember feeling morbid when the chorus to Metallica’s "Enter Sandman" ran through my mind as Harrison slept in my arms with one eye open. I remember taking a bazillion pictures when we first got home from the hospital. I remember thinking I would never stop taking pictures, making memories or loving the tiny human we created. @midwestfertility #ivfjourney

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«…Comme j’étais blessée. Parfois, j’étais vraiment en colère contre Dieu. Combien de douleur et de chagrin je ressentais. J’ai donc menti à moi-même et aux autres. Parler de mes années d’infertilité a été si difficile… » écrit une autre femme.

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Post 6 of 7: I was one that never shared my true feelings. I held it all in and wrote most of it in my journal. I had this idea in my mind that for me to be loved, I had to keep it all together on the outside. I couldn’t let others see how I was truly feeling. How hurt I was. How at times, I was really angry at God. How much pain and sorrow I was going though. That wasn’t the girl everyone knew, so I kept it in. So I lied to myself and to others around me. Talking about our infertility years was soo hard and it’s really just recent that I told myself no more. This isn’t something I will be ashamed of. Infertility is something that will always be part of my story. Infertility made me stronger. Infertility led us to our kids. Infertility made me stronger in my faith. Infertility taught me a lot. I’m thankful for infertility, but it also doesn’t make some days hard. It still hurts at times and that’s okay. I’m stronger now. . . . #infertilitysupport #infertilityjourney #infertility #infertilityawareness #infertilityawarenessweek #talkabouttrying #stronger #reallife #bereal #honesty

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Depuis ces dernières années, le nombre de couples qui rencontrent des difficultés pour concevoir a augmenté. L’augmentation serait due en partie à l’âge plus tardif de la première grossesse. Cependant, l’infertilité touche un couple sur 8 et concernerait 80 millions de personnes dans le monde. Dans 40% des cas, le problème de stérilité concerne la femme, 40%  de l’homme et 20% de la combinaison des deux membres du couple.